The answer I gave to someone this morning who asked me about how I learned the approach I have taken when I talk to people who ask for my help. First and foremost, it is about 2 Corinthians 1:3-4 “Blessed be God, even the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our trouble, so that we may be able to comfort those who are in every trouble, through the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God. “
We must comfort people not with proof texts but with the comfort God has given us! That means we have to be willing to face our daily “stuff!” before we try to “Fix” other people!
My Philosophy when it comes to psychology is quite simply, anything that works in psychology works because it was already in the Word of God to start with. Sadly in some of the biblical counseling world, we have not really dug into understanding what God is communicating in some of the passages. We may want the easy way out. We don’t want to deal with prickly hard things that hurt. It takes some real time and effort on the part of all people involved. I am working on a visual project of this that I will post in the coming days as it is taking time to do what I am doing and I have to work at it slowly as I have strength.
In the meantime, however, the more I have walked this road of growth and healing and trying to understand what God was communicating to me, the more I have understood some very key passages of scripture and exactly what God is really trying to say and how helpful it is to life and godliness! It has become a driving passion with me to never give a pat answer! To always think through things to make sure I understand what’s really going on and to give a Biblical answer that is not trite! God’s Word is like bricks and picked up and used properly they create a foundation that is powerfully strong. But if they are just picked up and thrown at somebody because someone doesn’t want to take the time to understand where that brick really needs to be laid, they cause more damage than help! I call them Bible bricks for that reason. I will never give someone the quick answer of “You just need to get over this and trust God.” Until I have asked all the question, Prov 18:13 I don’t know what it is they need to get over and I also don’t know if they have the tools and support to work towards getting over it. There are an awful lot of incredibly deeply hurting people who need truth given the right way, at the right time, and laid properly to create a foundation in their life! We can’t afford to pick up bricks and throw them and dash off to our next appointment! I have had people in my life who have done both. One approach was life-changing and directional. The other was deeply damaging!